Why You Should Look To A Minimalist Lifestyle To Become A Better You

It is one of modern life’s ironies that the busier we are in the hopes of realizing our hopes and dreams, the more we stagnate. Moreover, much of being busy involves, and is aimed at, consuming and owning as much as we can. This is exactly where learning about minimalism, and adopting a minimalist lifestyle, can change your life for the better. To many people it will come as a great relief to know that to become more of who you are does not involve consuming and owning more, but that it significantly involves doing less while focusing on what is important and with those who matter. Read here what living the minimalist lifestyle entails, and how it might just be what you need to help unearth your hidden talents and potentials.

Paradigm Shift

The first, and perhaps most fundamental, change in the direction of adopting a minimalist lifestyle is for you to work on changing your mindset. You need to undergo a paradigm shift in your thinking, actions, and perceptions of life in general, and on your own, in particular. In essence, you stop looking for fulfillment and meaning in material possessions, and how much you can accumulate. Instead, your primary focus is on life itself, and on creating increasingly more qualitative, positive experiences; in short, quality assumes greater focus and meaning than quantity. But, what does this mean in every day practice, you might ask?


A minimalist lifestyle encourages you to let go of the excesses modern culture so readily offers up for consumption; the newest gadgets, fashionable clothes, the latest luxury brand items, more of this, and a bigger that. In the process of going with the flow of the excessive consumerist lifestyle and mentality most people seem to automatically adopt, you hardly take notice of its negative effects on your life; you inevitably end up collecting more clutter, get deeper into debt, grow a longer to-do list, create more distractions, and also too much noise.

The obsession with material goods and the supposed happiness these bring, leaves many people unfulfilled because in the process they forget about creating and expressing what is internally meaningful to them. You neglect your essence, since it is something immaterial, and it cannot be found, or enhanced, on the material plane. What a minimalist mindset asks of you is to pause, and think about, whether obtaining this new service and that product is really helping you to cultivate your essence, your meaning, and will it add to a deeper, more enriching experience of life. Think about it: how many pairs of shoes do you need, how big a house, or how many TVs are necessary in order for you to live a meaningful, creative, energetic life?

The Nonessential

When you adopt a minimalist mindset and lifestyle, you quickly learn to distinguish between what is important, and what isn’t. It refines and sharpens your focus, and clears away inconsequential distractions. According to Leo Babauta, minimalism;

Is a way of eschewing the non-essential in order to focus on what’s truly important, what gives our lives meaning.

The more your attention and actions are determined by doing and taking care of what is meaningful, rather than what is convenient, pleasurable, or makes you look good, the more you start appreciating and valuing the little things in life, and the importance of living in the present moment. Moreover, you are less concerned about trying to do 101 different things in the space of a day, but focus on paying attention to one or two things because they are important for today.

Eschewing what is not essential does not mean you now have to stop buying nice things. What it does mean, however, is that you don’t purchase in excess of what you need, and that you focus on the quality of a service or product; the higher the quality, the longer it is likely to last, and the greater its value.

Decluttering and Simplicity

When you stop to consume blindly, and let go of the desire to own everything you see, you will naturally end up collecting less. In addition, your eyes begin to open to how many unnecessary things you’ve amassed over the years, including the fact that much of what you own you no longer use. When you think about it, the need to hold on to things you actually don’t need and use is more psychological, and does not actually serve any practical purpose other than an emotional one. Getting rid of what you don’t need any longer will not only lead to living a less cluttered life, but also help to overcome the psychological imperative to hold on to what is no longer necessary or important. Throwing out what is not needed will help to make your life simpler.

Meaningful Relationships

The realization that you now have more time on your hands, because you are less concerned with collecting and consuming goods can be quite liberating in itself. Combined with your growing knowledge of what is important, you will naturally look to your relationships with loved ones, and get more encouragement to spend more quality time with the people who matter most in your life. And that’s what minimalism is about: doing what is important, with those who are important. Adopting a minimalist lifestyle will, according to Mirella, teach you to become;

More fascinated by creating a life that is centered around meaning and fulfillment.

Getting out of your old mindset and habits will, of course, be challenging as you begin your journey on the path of living a minimalist lifestyle. It’s not a once-off happening, but requires daily, conscious work to adopt a new paradigm for living.

Inward Journey

Lynn Fang says that choosing the minimalist lifestyle in essence involves;

A journey in search of the essentials of living a happy and meaningful life.

Fortunately, when you begin to undertake this journey, the positive results will soon begin to manifest in your life. Those who have made the minimalist lifestyle their own speak of living a life that is less stressful and full of joy, ease, and creativity, because they have deliberately opted to make room for these by looking on the inside, rather than the outside, for meaning and fulfillment.

The Highest Form Of Ketosis

The highest form of ketosis: Fasting. How to water fast: before, during & after. – YouTube

In this video, I wanted to share with all of you my little wisdom and advice about fasting. I will index this video shortly so that you can go to the section that you want directly without having to listen to the whole thing. But I’m about to embark on a 3 day fast and you can join me if you like. Tomorrow Nov, 2nd will be the first day, Nov 3rd will be the second day, Nov 4th will be the fourth day, and if I feel good, I will continue. Big hug and much love to all.


Learn To Manage Your Emotions To Improve Your Quality Of Life

Our fluctuating emotions connect us to life as it unfolds in our awareness, and also motivate us to achieve great, good, mediocre, or bad things. Yet, most of us have little insight into our emotional lives, paying scant attention to what happens on the inside, as the focus stays primarily on the world outside. Read here why it is necessary for you to learn to become curious, interested, and increasingly aware, of your emotions.

Understanding Your Emotions

Emotions move and drive much of our everyday behavior. They affect us physically, and shape the fluctuating moods we find ourselves in. While emotions or feelings color our outlook on life at any particular moment – if you feel great, life is great; if you feel lousy, life is not so wonderful – they are like bridges that connect our thoughts, feeling states and actions. If you want to know how someone – or yourself – is experiencing life right now, tune into their (or your own) emotional state; since emotions, more so than our thoughts or actions, are reliable barometers of how we experience life.

Emotional Illiteracy

Though we all have emotional experiences, it is astounding how little we know – meaning, how little awareness we have – about the emotional facets of our lives. In short, most people are emotionally illiterate, or possess little emotional intelligence. What this means is that, among other things, we sometimes struggle to manage or control emotions; we don’t always know how to express them appropriately, we have little awareness about what triggers certain emotions; and our inability to deal with emotions wreak havoc with our relationships. Some emotions we fear, because they manifest as unpleasant experiences, and we don’t know how to control them, or why they emerge in the first place. Most people easily fall into the grip of overwhelming emotions like anger or sadness, and don’t know how to get out of it. Hence, emotional illiteracy plagues most of us. One of the reasons why this is so is because learning to become emotionally intelligent is hard work.

Approaching Your Emotions

Ideas, beliefs and opinions about how best to understand, approach, and deal with emotions, differ. Some experts say we cannot control how we feel, but we can learn to accept, and thereby help to transmute or release, unhealthy emotions. Others believe we can actually influence how we feel by changing what we focus on; if, for instance, you feel anger rising within you and are aware of it, you can change it, or subdue its impact, instantaneously by thinking of something humorous or pleasant. Whatever the disagreements about how best to relate to emotions, everyone agrees that it is important to learn to increase your awareness of your emotional experiences, and learn to manage them sufficiently so they serve, rather than dominate, your life’s intentions and purposes.

Why You Should Learn to Manage Your Emotions

The more attuned you become to your own emotional experiences, the more you will grow in self-awareness, and confidence. In addition, you will also have more empathy for others, and appreciate their feelings even though they may disagree with yours. Emotional intelligence is therefore an important means for creating meaningful connections and relationships with others. Moreover, the main reason why you ought to show interest in your emotions is so you can learn how to better manage them; the ability to increasingly influence your emotional states is a potent means to improve the quality of your life. Mark Tyrrell puts it this way;

Being able to manage and influence your own emotions is a powerful marker for good health, emotional maturity, and happiness.

Emotions and the Body

Emotions are actually physical or bodily responses to what goes on in the thinking mind. A mind that focuses on positive, uplifting and creative thoughts consistently will generate healthy, positive emotions. Both negative and positive emotions have concrete affects on the body; they influence the heart beat, your breathing, your gestures, posture, tone of voice, and facial expressions. Moreover, emotions stimulate the release of certain chemicals which can either make the immune system stronger, or weaken it. Chronic fearful emotions, for example, may harm the immune system, thereby giving a foothold for serious illnesses to set in and spread. On the other hand, emotions based on love and harmony fortify the body, making it healthier and resistant to all kinds of physical ailments.

Ignoring or Suppressing Emotions

In a world that celebrates the virtues of rational, logical thinking day in and day out, and frowns upon emotional expression in public, most people learn to ignore, trivialize, suppress, deny, distort or dismiss their emotions. The upshot is that we never allow ourselves to truly feel, get in touch with, and embrace our negative or positive emotions. To the extent that we ignore, or only half-heartedly acknowledge what we feel, we become strangers to parts of ourselves.

We then easily fall into the unhealthy habit of mentally burying negative experiences like frustration, irritation, anger, anxiety or sadness at work. Many times we attempt to deal with such unsettling emotions through keeping busy, excessive alcohol consumption, drug-taking, exercise, or just pretending that they did not really matter. The problem with ignoring emotions, according to Joseph Naft, is that;

Any effort to suppress emotions backfires.

When we suppress our emotions – instead of experiencing them fully in awareness – we drive them deeper into the body. There they linger, surfacing from time to time, and causing all kinds of physical troubles, until we bring them into consciousness, and thereby release them from the body. When you are fully aware of your destructive feelings and impulses, and learn to stop judging them as bad or negative, you learn to embrace yourself as you are. The more you see your emotions clearly as they come into consciousness, the easier you make it for them to pass through awareness, and the less self-critical you become.

Better Decisions

From an evolutionary perspective, our emotions are more primary, and hence more powerful, than our intellect. As such, says Dr. Carmen Harra;

Our emotions dictate our thoughts, intentions and actions with superior authority to our rational minds.

However, at times we react too quickly without thinking, or decide on actions that we end up regretting later on. If you consistently show non-judgmental interest in your emotions as they emerge into awareness, however, you learn which ones to treasure and nurture, and which ones to let go. As your emotional intelligence grows, you learn to make better decisions, and react less to negativity around and inside you.

You need to become more emotionally literate so you can learn to better manage your emotions, and your life. Otherwise, you become vulnerable to all kinds of addictions that serve as inadequate substitutes to help you contain your fears, anxieties, and a host of negative feelings. Through habitual awareness of, and openness to, your emotions, however, you can learn to harness their power to uplift the quality of your life.

How You Can Benefit From Living A Minimalist Lifestyle

Adopting a minimalist lifestyle brings many benefits. On the one hand, you are apt to spend less, save more, and learn to live comfortably while relying on what is essential. On a more profound level, you will learn to make more time for what is relevant and meaningful, and to pursue those things that resonate with your sense of who you truly are deep inside. Read below what other benefits adopting a minimalist lifestyle has to offer.


One of the major benefits you will get from choosing to live the minimalist lifestyle is an increasing sense of personal freedom: freedom to be yourself, and to do what matters to you. Chances are you do not appreciate how much freedom you have since you are too busy trying to accomplish too many things at the same time, and you also likely to be too preoccupied with amassing the latest this, or the newest that. When you realize it’s not necessary, or even important, to amass as many material goods as everyone else, you end up with more time; time to reflect on what is important to you, and the freedom to pursue that which makes your existence meaningful, and valuable. Faby Giordani believes that;

Minimalism is a tool that can assist you in finding freedom.

And, it is such a tool because it helps you uncover what is essential, and provides you with the motivation to remove distracting activities, relationships, habits, attitudes, and patterns of thinking.


The minimalist attitude to life encourages creativity. When you become aware that the true source of creativity resides within you, and that it has less to do with what you can get from your surroundings and you make more time for creative activities. You remove habits that distract you from becoming more creative because pursuing the latter is infinitely more meaningful and it does not even have to be creative on a grand scale either. The upshot is that life becomes more enjoyable, as you are bound to make increasingly more exciting discoveries about yourself and also about life itself.

Better Choices

You will find yourself making healthier choices on many levels. You may discover that you spend far too much time on the internet, in front of the TV, visiting friends and socializing, eating too much junk food, or investing money on stuff you don’t really need. Because minimalism sets you on a path of living a life of quality, you are apt to think twice before taking action. You are likely to consider things like: how will buying this, or spending time there, add to the essence of my personality? Will it enhance the quality and direction of my life, or detract from it? You cannot ask yourself these questions earnestly and consistently, and not benefit from them in some way, eventually. Mirella suggests that next time you plan to buy something, for instance, ask yourself;

Whether it will extend and enrich you or whether it is meant to fill a void.

Less Expense

If you buy less, you save more money. You will also cut down on the amount of material goods you will own, which means you will end up with less, or no, clutter. The less clutter in your life, the easier it is to live a more organized existence that does not take that much time and energy to sustain. This means less stress from having to maintain, collect, organize, clean, and searching for this or that. It is easy to fall into the trap of over-consumption and debt as so many people do, and to live a life so full of clutter you don’t know what to do with it anymore. Life becomes cheaper in terms of material possessions and consumables when you adopt a minimalist lifestyle.

Becoming An Active Listener Can Transform Your Relationships And Life

In a culture that does not recognize and value the benefits of silence between and among people in social interaction, we have become used to listening to ourselves even when someone is talking to us. Hence, we rarely truly listen to others, but instead mull over our reactions and thoughts while someone else is speaking. This has negative consequences for our relationships because we fail to really appreciate in full what the other is trying to communicate, and it also impoverishes the quality of our lives. And yet, says Linda Fehrs;

Being heard and [being] understood is one of the most basic needs of human beings.

Everyone has a desire to be heard; it makes us feel significant, and good, about ourselves. Read below how learning to become a better listener benefits the nature and quality of your relationships, and can make your life more fulfilling.

The Components of Active or Intentional Listening:

It’s All About the Speaker

Active or intentional listeners, through paying undivided attention to the person speaking, show respect for the speaker, and, by doing so, elicits respect from the speaker. By listening attentively without interrupting the other person, you show others that you are interested in what they are saying and that you also have high regard for them as people. But this only comes about when you learn to listen with affection; this means, among other things that you don’t try to change the subject, or interrupt them with what you are thinking. You really care about what the person is trying to tell you, no matter the content of the conversation. Active listeners show, according to Irene Hansen Savarese, that;

You can manage your emotions, and wait for your turn.

People are much less likely to interrupt you when you speak because they see you making an effort to understand them without jumping in to finish their sentences. And, when you are not clear about what you’ve just heard, ask a question or two. This way you let the speaker know you it’s important for you to understand what he or she is trying to communicate. Intentional listeners, says, Brenda Ueland, listen with;

Complete, absorbed, uncritical sympathy, without one flaw of boredom or impatience.

The key thing to remember, when listening to another person, is that it’s all about the speaker, and not about what you think about what they are saying. Your thoughts and feelings can wait until they have finished talking.


Learn to listen actively by having patience during conversations. This is what accomplished listeners do. Any sign of impatience from you will irritate the speakers, and cause them to switch off when you speak. This is not so easy to do when it is your turn to speak, and the listener shows impatience with you. However, the way to keep showing patience with people you are listening to is to learn to become quiet inside; still your thoughts and emotions by letting them come and go. Give up waiting for your turn to say something. Instead, focus all your attention on what the other is saying.

Eye Contact and Body Language

When you observe people that are intently listening to one another in conversation, you will notice that they hardly take their gaze away from the speaker’s eyes. They look directly at one another, because they are absorbed by what the other is saying. When you maintain eye contact with the speaker, he gets the feeling that what he has to say means something to you; that his ideas and thoughts matter. This is a very liberating experience, compared to when someone keeps interrupting your train of thought while you are speaking. You can also infer the feelings behind the speaker’s words by watching the person’s body language, and your own. You can also relay your interest by sitting upright, and by keeping your arms and hands relaxed and open, for example. By folding your arms tightly, you subliminally communicate a closed, defensive posture. Good listeners don’t do this, unless you are having a conversation outside in the middle of a blizzard!

How Being an Active Listener Can Enhance Your Development:

You Learn More

When you begin to listen to people attentively in conversations, during lectures, at conferences, or even on television debates and programs, your knowledge expands. Not only do you gain more knowledge and information about the issues being talked about, but your understanding of people grows as well. The better you understand others, their motives and desires, the more interesting they become, and the more you want to listen, irrespective of whether you agree with their perspectives or not. Moreover, listening with interest will also raise more questions about this and that, motivating you to want to find out more. Good listening helps to keep your curiosity alive.

Enriching Relationships

The nature and quality of your relationships become more enriching and satisfying when you learn to listen with greater attention, and sincerity, to others. Most people avoid individuals who rarely listen to them, but are instead drawn to those who listen well, no matter if they talk about serious matters, or are being flippant and humorous. Consult your own experience on this; when you speak to someone who is a good listener, you feel like talking and opening up more; it’s a freeing experience. Joseph Naft reckons that when we listen quietly, and with no judgment;

We create a space, an atmosphere that produces a profound effect both on ourselves and on others.

Hence, the more you suspend judgment and criticism when others talk, but focus instead on what they are trying to communicate, the more satisfying the effect on both of you. In short, you become more interesting as a person because you show interest in others when you listen to them.

Practicing active or intentional listening does not only bring benefits in the external realm of relationships and learning more about the world, but it also enriches your understanding of yourself. The more you listen to others with honesty, openness, and interest, the more you begin to see parts of yourself reflected in the lives, struggles, and joys of others. It helps to bring us closer to one another, and also aids in dissolving artificial barriers of class, education, race, or ethnicity. It makes us more fully human.

The Importance Of Learning To Forgive


The memory is a powerful tool of the brain, and many people have experienced an event in their life that they just cannot seem to forget. It can agitate or even anger you when you stop to think about or dwell on that memory. Maybe someone stole from you, mislead you, cheated, abused or lied to you, and you want to get back at him or her. If the anger and hate is rising inside you, and you cannot seem to let it go, ask yourself the following questions:

Is it your mind that will not let you forget the event?
Do you really want to forget the event?
Do you enjoy your thoughts of anger, hate, and thoughts of revenge regarding the event?

Revenge or Forgiveness

Some of the most destructive forms of energy a person can become involved in are fear, anger, hate, and revenge, and these negative emotions can dominate your way of thinking, and eventually lead you to commit negative acts. Revenge can be very dangerous, and if you commit an unjustifiable negative act in your life, it only makes you part of the same negative cycle. No matter who you are in this world, what goes around comes around, and we can see examples of this in our everyday lives. By giving in to your fear, anger, and hate you ultimately will be no different than those who wronged you in the first place.

But if you allow yourself to forgive the person or the situation, you may find that you have that comfortable feeling and a more contented state of mind. If you let go of the unhealthy need for revenge, which is an emotion fueled by hate and anger, you can start shifting your focus to the things that truly matter in your life, and those things that bring you a sense of fulfillment. The Staff at the Mayo Clinic tell us,

Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life.

You have to make the choice for yourself. No one else can make it for you. Your path in life can be positively radiant and fulfilling, or it can become depressingly negative and hateful. It’s entirely up to you.

How to Forgive

Joretta L. Marshall, PhD, a United Methodist minister and professor of pastoral care at the Eden Theological Seminary in St. Louis, says,

Forgiving yourself isn’t a slogging, long-term, “good day/bad day” type of thing. “At some point,” she says, “you reach a turning point. Something shifts. You feel less burdened, you have more energy. You live longer, you have better health.

Many people have a hard time struggling with the idea of releasing anger that they are harboring towards someone that has wronged them, but there are a few things that you can do that will help you on your journey. First, calm your emotions through deep breathing, and think about the events from a logical objective perspective. Think about the truth, and the facts around the situation, and acknowledge what actually happened. Know that the person mistreated you, and that you were right, and then let that memory fade into the distance. Let go of the anger and hateful energy that surrounds you, and focus on the people and things that mean something to you in your life.

By focusing on forgiveness instead of revenge, you will notice that you feel more content and at peace in your life, and this can be a great thing.

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